You’re dating a great guy, and things have been going well for a while now. But, you’ve been burned before, and you know sometimes things aren’t always what they seem. Even when a relationship seems like a good one, eventually the honeymoon period is over, and you realized you wasted your time with the wrong man. If you had known he wasn’t “Mr. Right” or “Ms. Right,” you wouldn’t have spent so much time with him or her. You want to get married and have kids one day, not be in an endless string of relatively short-term relationships. So how can you tell if he’s not Mr. Right? Here are some tips to help you out.
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Do You Feel Like You’re Settling?
Every girl should have an idea of what their dream man would be like and what qualities he’d have. When you think about your boyfriend, does he match with most of the things that are important to you? He doesn’t have to be perfect, but he shouldn’t be so far away from your ideal that you feel like you’re settling. There are lots of men out there, and perhaps there’s one who’s a better fit for you.
Is He Controlling or Jealous?
If your boyfriend is very controlling over the things you do, it’s a bad sign. If he’s the very jealous type, it’s also not good news. A relationship should have mutual respect and trust. If he doesn’t respect you enough to let you make your own decisions, and if he doesn’t trust you even though you’ve done nothing wrong, he’s definitely Mr. Wrong.
Are Your Future Goals Wildly Different?
When you think about the future, how well does your boyfriend fit into your plans? If your dream is to live on a farm and raise 10 kids, and he’d only be happy in the city with just a dog, it probably won’t work out no matter how much you enjoy being together. If neither of you are willing to compromise and your goals clash, you might be better off finding someone who’s more like you.
How Good is the Chemistry?
Chemistry is an important part of any relationship, so what’s the chemistry like in your relationship? And be honest. If he’s Mr. Right, you’ll be happy being only with him forever. He satisfies you completely. If he’s Mr. Wrong, it might not be as thrilling as it could be. If you feel like it’s just routine, and lacks a deeper connection that feels like love, it probably won’t last.
What are Your Instincts Telling You?
In the end, only you can determine whether or not your boyfriend is the guy for you. No matter what, you have to listen to your instincts because they’re just about always right. If you feel like you have to convince yourself that he’s Mr. Right – that he should be – he’s probably not. When he’s Mr. Right, you’ll just know it. You won’t even be questioning whether he is or is not; it will be easy to tell.