Deborah E answers the question, "I am extremely depressed and I have hurt my family and friends to the point that they wont talk to me anymore, I could even lose my job because of it? How can I fix things?"
I'm sorry that you have had such a difficult time. I understand that it is not only the pain the you are feeling but the circumstances that you feel you may have caused by your pain. The whole thing can seem overwhelming.
First, let's get the reality part out of the way. I'm sure that you probably already know this, but it isn't going to be solved overnight. It took steps to get where you are at now and it will take steps to get back to a more comfortable place.
If your family has never been supportive and has been any portion of the cause of your depression, then we don't want to rely on them to be where you feel you need them to be for you. However, if they have simply reached a spot where they no longer know how to help you and
Deborah E answers the question, "I have this really cool boyfriend. We have been going out for two weeks now. We've been friends for, like, 10 yrs. Everything was really cool for the first week, but now he isn't calling. Oh, he did have this girlfriend for 3 yrs and I think he might be calling her."
I'm sorry to be the one who tells you this, but sweetie, he simply isn't that into you!
If your boyfriend has been dating another girl for 3 yrs, great! He is the committed type. But, wait, he is probably still committed... committed to the ex-girlfriend.
Here is my advice. Set him loose. You do the loosening, in a kind, but direct way. That way, if he is into you, he may come back, because of how you handled the situation confidently and without all the weepies (you can do that behind the scenes). But, don't get your hopes up. Go find a honey that can love you, and only you.
Deborah E answers the question, "My aunt keeps posting insults on my facebook, referring to my boyfriend. I don't know why she has to be so judgmental. And why does she have to post it on my Facebook wall? Oooh, she makes me sooooo mad. What should I do to stop her?"
That is a difficult situation and I understand your frustration.
First, I assume you have already done this, but just in case, have you tried talking to your aunt, either by telephone or, at the least my message? Obviously, we all believe the "right answer" is to try to talk face-to-face, then telephone or skype, and finally, email, IM, or message, but sometimes that does not work or we end up talking AT each other instead of listening and trying to resolve the issue.
If either one of you is not fully interested in resolving the conflict and really protecting the relationship,
Deborah E answers the question, "We are not happy any time we meet under one roof so what do we do?"
It is hard when people are not happy meeting under the same roof. It makes it very difficult, especially when you really care about someone, love someone, and want things to be better. Sometimes even civility and polite behavior would be an improvement over the circumstances you are currently experiencing. But, then, there are times when seemingly kind behavior is only a mask that covers something even more devious and ugly beneath it and one can find themselves not only unhappy in the current environment, but days, weeks, months later, as they process possible negativity that they have experienced.
We don't want to start off assuming that it is anyone's fault, as all of us could use some improving, couldn't we? However, regardless of whose fault it is, or whose fault it is not, you need to examine what you need, can live with, and cannot live without.
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But above all else, the people back then knew how to have fun, how to go wild and shake off all that stress. This probably explains this generation's fixation with that long gone time. If you're one those too (and we don't blame you for that), and intend to host a 50s themed party, our simple and snazzy little guide should help you best.
Deborah E answers the question, "We live together with our two month old son though we are yet to get married. My boyfriend is a serial cheater and this hurts me a lot. I am tired, frustrated, depressed, and want to walk out of the relationship. Please provide advice to me on this."
I feel for you and the pain that you must be going through. It appears you have invested a lot into this relationship and probably are a woman with a high capacity to love and to hope. These are excellent qualities to have, so pat yourself on the back for your perseverance.
Judging from your use of the word, "serial," it appears that possibly your boyfriend is not taking steps to correct the behavior. Possibly he does not view that it is wrong, or he does not feel that it merits the amount of effort to change it. If he is truly trying to change (i.e. seeking a counselor, finding an accountability method, etc.), then this would be a different story. However, I am operating from the assumption that there are no real efforts or desires to change the behavior and that is why you used the word, "serial."