How To Get Over A Loved One Passing Away In 5 Helpful Ways

by Keith Dunham

Our biggest fear in the world is that something happens to someone we love. Every single one of us would like to die before those closest to us, but unfortunately that is not how things work. They wouldn’t want us to ruin anymore of our life mourning them because they know how precious life is and how little time we really have left in the grand scheme of things. If it was up to them they would want you to follow your dreams and achieve everything you deserve.

There is nothing wrong with mourning their death as soon as it happens, but sooner or later you need to wake up with a smile on your face. You need to jump out of bed and skip downstairs because you’re looking forward to whatever the new day brings. You know that is what they’d want and they will be spurring you on as they look down on you. Getting to this stage is hard work, so we can look at a few ways that might help you get your life back on track after the funeral.

Talk to someone

I’m not talking about some random person, or even your best friend. I’m saying you should go and speak to someone who has experience dealing with people who have lost someone close to them. The reason this is at the top of the list is because I want you to know it’s an option you must consider if you can’t seem to shake the grief on your own. Don’t book an appointment just yet, but know that a tiny percentage of people do need extra help.

Start a new hobby

The worst thing about someone dying is that we have a gap in our schedule where we used to spend time with them. This can hurt even more because you know they should be sitting across from you with a smile on their face. It can be hard to deal with this time more than any other and sometimes it helps to have something that distracts you. That is why a hobby is so good and if it involves anything physical it will also help clear your head.

Accept you’re going to be sad

Let’s not pretend you’re just going to forget about them and never be sad, because that isn’t going to happen. You will be sad, but it’s how you deal with it that counts. When you start to feel a tear slipping out of your eye just accept you are feeling upset. Don’t let it send you on a downer so you spend the next 12 hours in your bed. If you can learn to deal with sadness when it comes you won’t be scared of it happening.

Don’t go crazy

When you’re grieving you don’t need to be running around stressed out. Once you get over the initial shock you still don’t want to do too much until you’ve finally came to terms with it. You don’t want to end up breaking down somewhere because the stress was too much to bear. Hopefully you can take some time off work and chill out for a bit. You obviously can’t do this when everyone dies, but if it was someone very close to you it’s OK.

It won’t last forever

Sometimes it feels good knowing it won’t last forever. I’m sure there have been plenty of times in your life already where you thought the pain would never go away. Some people can’t even handle a 24hr bug and they give up. They think they won’t make it through the night. Getting over a loved one passing is going to take a lot longer than one day, but if you know in the back of your head you will make it you should be able to get through the bad times.


This post was generously provided by Keith Dunham.

Keith Dunham is a regular blogger. He likes writing on a myriad of topics that catches his fancy. He believes that 'Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close-knit family in another city,' but whatever it is, he loves his family more then anything in his life. He recently lost someone very close to him and says cremation services in CT helped him a lot.

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