Deborah is a #1 Jazz Singer, as well as a lifelong musician, songwriter, and sound engineer. She is also a writer who pursues a love of positive psychology. She is a thesis short of having her doctorate in psychology.
I Love A Guy But He Doesn’t Love Me
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I love a guy but he doesn't love me. Will I ever get his love?
Smriti
Dear Smriti,I know that what you are experiencing is very difficult. It can be frustrating, and just downright a never-ending feeling of sadness!
You have probably heard the saying, ""If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don't, their love was never yours to begin with."
This is a hard saying to accept, especially when you are in the throes of that unrequited love, the case of loving someone who doesn't seem to love you back. However, there is a lot of truth in that saying. You cannot force someone to love you. I know you already know that, or you wouldn't be seeking a way to "get his love." The process of "getting his love" is a process of acquiring or gaining, or somehow achieving his love for you. That is not the kind of love that will make you feel good. If you force love, it will be just that, a forced action. It will be devoid and lacking of all warmth and "good feeling." You want the type of love that is free-flowing, not forced.
Just because this guy does not seem to love you does not mean that you have to stop loving him. Love him from afar. Allow him to see your inner beauty and character and the maturity it takes to "let go." Like the saying says, he may come back to you, and then, you will know that it is mutual love, the free-flowing kind.
hugs,Deborah E
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