Tag: Abuse

  • How Do I Overcome Abuse?

    How Do I Overcome Abuse?

    Deborah E answers the question, “How do I overcome abuse, in general?” First, we need to determine if it is overcoming current abuse or past abuse. If it is current abuse, there is really no getting over it until you remove yourself from the abuse. If it is obviously abuse, you need to get out!…

  • I Made A Mistake and Want To Be Forgiven

    I Made A Mistake and Want To Be Forgiven

    Deborah E answers the question, “I recently had an argument with my wife that resulted in violence. I was able to hurt her physically by squeezing her arm to take her in the bathroom so our kids wouldn’t hear us, which resulted in a big bruise on her arm. I also verbally abused her. I…

  • Forgetting About The Bad Incidents Of The Past

    Forgetting About The Bad Incidents Of The Past

    Deborah E answers the question, “How do I forget about the bad incidents of the past?” Forgetting about bad incidents is difficult. It seems that we often times forget about pleasant, but less memorable events, and remember the bad incidents. When the incidents are really bad, and it happens to a child, there is often…

  • The Validation Vacuum

    The Validation Vacuum

    When a child does not grow up with a validation that they are loved, there is created, within the soul of the child what I call a “Validation Vacuum.” This whole is deep within, and the child learns to hid this black hole from others as best as he or she can, over time. This…

  • Is It Hunting Season on Cockroaches, Yet?

    “But,” I countered, “You don’t understand! My family is religious. My family is full of missionaries, pastors, global do-gooders. They couldn’t possibly be cockroaches!”

  • Coming Out Of The Closet

    Ok, it is time to come out of the closet. I didn’t want to share this with you. I mean, after all, I didn’t want to be labeled. Ready for it? I am an abuse victim. No, wait… >> I am a SURVIVOR! Oh, I cringe, I didn’t want to have to tell you that!…