Deborah is a #1 Jazz Singer, as well as a lifelong musician, songwriter, and sound engineer. She is also a writer who pursues a love of positive psychology. She is a thesis short of having her doctorate in psychology.
I'm in love with a married man. I have tried so hard to let go but I still cant. He is also responsible for my education. What should I do now?
I realize that this love you have for this married man is intense and you feel it deeply, but you need to be able to look at the situation from all aspects, including your heart. It is interesting that you wrote this question, as it is very similar to another question I received recently, I Can't Lose The Married Man I Love. Please check out that Ask Deborah E question/answer, as well.
You mentioned that this married man is "also responsible for [your] education." What does that mean, exactly? I noted it as "paying" for your education, but the phrase "responsible" may have other meanings, as well. For example, he may be a teacher or another professional within an educational facility. If this is the case, then the answer to your question takes on another facet beyond the fact that he is married, and that needs to be considered, as well.
Let me keep this on a more easily identified level, for now (and please read the other relationship post, as well). If this man has already shown his fondness for you, keep in mind that it is that much easier for him to continue on that path and show his fondness for another gal, and another, and another. If he has not shown his fondness for you, then you need to evaluate whether it is helpful for you to hurt and long for the man that may not be available to love you.
The long and the short of it, honey, is that you deserve a man who will love you and only you (unless you live in a polygamous culture, and it is expected that there are multiple husbands and/or wives).hugs,
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