Latest posts by Deborah (see all)
- Is Dating an Optimization Problem? - February 10, 2019
- What Is the Best Way to Spend Time With Your Significant Other? - January 20, 2019
- Why Do Nice Guys Get Friend-Zoned? - January 13, 2019
First, we need to determine if it is overcoming current abuse or past abuse. If it is current abuse, there is really no getting over it until you remove yourself from the abuse. If it is obviously abuse, you need to get out! If it is not abuse, but uncomfortable, then we would need to consider coping methods in dealing with the less-than-ideal situation.
I have a feeling you are referring to exactly what you said here, abuse.
Overcoming abuse is a process. It does not happen overnight. At first, when one discovers that they are free from abuse, and at a point where they are free to recover, the desire is to instantly feel better (common to us, as humans), and to have clarity on what we are recovering from, and to have validation that we did experience what we know we experienced and that we are not alone in our feelings.
In some cases, the harder we strive to find who we are, who we were (before, during, after the abuse), and where we want to be, the more confused we become, the more hazy things may become and the more dejected we may feel.
It is very cliche, but it is true that time is the best healer, but time can only heal if we safeguard ourselves against further abuse and pain, and learn to love ourselves where we are at, TODAY, and take those little baby steps in moving forward.
Here are some thoughts that may help:
This will give you a start.